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Wednesday, January 23, 2008

‘Silence and Soft Speech’ Attract Abundance

Gosh! This stuff really works! Silence and soft speech can indeed attract abundance. Call it what you may, but all I care is that this is the real deal! How else can I explain the many small abundance that I have been blessed with since I started practicing this on the third day of the New Year. And tonight, I found out I won close to two thousand in the local lottery! I have a feeling more abundance are on their way to me! Thank you, thank you, thank you Universe!

It’s been two weeks since my last post entitled “Attract Good Fortune in the New Year through Silence and the Practice of Soft Speech”. And I have had many small fortunes since. Except for small lapses here and there (I am human, still), but overall, I feel much calmer, at peace with myself and grateful to the universe for everything good in my life. So I’m like making a promise to myself to practice ‘silence and soft speech’ on a daily basis simply because I am experiencing notable changes in my life that are wonderful. I simply just feel good about me now!

From Edginess to Blessedness

Overall, my lifestyle has not changed much. I follow the same work and home routine still, everyday. Usually (especially the past year) by this time of the month (I am a salaried worker, btw) after paying the bills, I would be walking on edge as I usually don’t have much cash on me or in my savings. I don’t know about you but, somehow, having money on me makes me feel secure and confident going about my business. With money, I don’t have to carry around the feeling of dread and insecurity that comes with knowing that you have no cash in hand and you have busted your credit card limit; you know, that dreaded fear that the car will suddenly give way and you have no cash for urgent repairs, or you might bump into old friends and you couldn’t even buy them coffee, etc, etc. I dislike that feeling of dread and edginess that come with the lack of money. Money gives me security and confidence.

Since the start of the year, I made sure I practice simple forms of meditation everyday. I observe moments of silence as much as possible, whenever possible, and I try to speak much softer than I usually do. The past three weeks, I am filled with this feeling of abundance and confidence. Why? Because I have a few thousands in savings, and a few hundreds on me (and now the nearly 2k that I won tonight), which is more than enough to give me the feeling of security,confidence in going about my day, not to mention a wonderful sense of calm inside. And, I have even booked air tickets for five in my family for us to go on vacation in March. Call it coincidence, or whatever. But I call these small miracles brought by the wonderful practice of silence and soft speech .

So what exactly is Silence and Soft Speech, or the practice of it?


Silence relaxes the mind and body. By practicing silence, we gain and preserve energy and vitality, but there are also many benefits to be obtained by silence. I stumbled upon an article on the 'Power of Silence' by wahiduddin which I am recommending to anyone interested in the topic.

To practice silence, everyday of the week, if possible, I make an effort to retreat from the noise, demands and expectations of the world around me for half an hour or so. I close myself in, and get in touch with my inner self to find the peace within. I practice silence by doing a few things that I now recommend:

1. Observe moments of quiet and stillness

  • Sit in a comfortable chair for a few minutes, close your eyes, breath slowly and just stay quiet…relax.
  • Focus all your attention on a soothing object for a few minutes: it could be a water feature on your office table or room, a poster on your wall, anything that gives you a sense of tranquility.
  • Find a quiet spot outdoors, better still on a hill or a building top, and just close your eyes for a few minutes and feel the cool breeze on your face. The high you get can be addictive.

2. Spend Solitary Time-outs:

  • Take a bath: a few minutes of showering or soaking in the bathtub, just feel the water caressing your skin into total relaxation.
  • Go for a relaxed walk in a quiet park for no specific purpose.
  • Sit in the park watching the birds, or people pass by or children playing.
  • If you live or pass near a church or chapel any day of the week, just stop by and sit for few minutes, and just enjoy the healing silence in His presence.

3. Meditation

I would go for simple meditation that one can easily learn from many sources, library, online, etc. For a simple meditation, just sit in a quiet and comfortable position, start with a few deep breaths and count down slowly from 25 to one to relax your whole body totally, release all stress and tension, and just go into your inner self, and focus on the stillness within. You may want to repeat some affirmations if you want to, and/or strengthen that further with visualizations.

Or you may want to learn yoga. There are plentiful resources out there.

Otherwise, you could go online and seek out the numerous free courses on meditation techniques. I came across a good meditation system, the Silva Life System which I am currently using. It’s great and works for me. No harm in checking out the Silva Method.

Soft Speech

Silence has healing properties for the mind, body and soul. The more moments of silence we observe, the more revitalized and tranquil we feel. Of course, being part of the human race we cannot continue to be silent for long. Speaking and/or communicating are part and parcel of living. However, we can keep speech to the bare essential at crucial times. And speaking in soft tones is always soothing to a listener. The many mistakes we make are by opening our mouths too much. Most of us have this need to be heard, to make a point, to contradict and to criticize. Often, talking too much allows us to say foolish things. We offend and hurt people through speech, and by speaking too much we give out secrets that we later regret.

One just needs to recognize the pervading goodness of silence; that it is in silence that we can do our best work because all our energy and willpower become concentrated and intense in silence. And the best part is, silence is spiritual and brings us closer to our God.

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Attract Good Fortune in the New Year through 'Silence' and the Practice of Soft Speech

It’s been a week into the New Year 2008. The past week, I have been struggling with what will be my first post for the year. I want to write about something special, something that touches deep and will bring good for the rest of my life. I actually had a problem deciding what to write, especially after a rather difficult 2007. My main concern is how to make 2008 a better year than the last. I somewhat panicked cos some Feng Shui foreseers say 2008 may not be quite fortunate for those born in my ‘animal’ year (which is the year of the sheep, likewise with those born in the year of the rabbit and horse). But I do not choose to believe them. They said year 2007 would be a lucky year, and looked what transpired. 2007 was not that fortunate for me, after all.

I BELIEVE my fate lies in my hands.

So while struggling the past week, I did a bit of rethinking, and reading here and there. I came across something that struck a cord within. It was some articles I read on the virtues of silence, calmness in adversity and ‘soft speech’ and how these can bring you inner peace and wealth, in all sense of the word.

Wagging Tongues and Loudness Brings Bad Fortune

At the start of 2008, instead of feeling energized, I had actually felt tired and spent after a stressed-out 2007. I suddenly realized why I felt this way – I have actually been talking too much the past year. As far as I can remember, the past year was really a bitch! (pardon the language). Never before had I spent so much energy bitching, gossiping, resenting and basically just complaining, complaining, complaining. Come to think of it, I was basically a raving lunatic the past year for reasons only known to me. I spent so much energy wallowing in self-pity and resentment. For trivial reasons, I shouted at my colleagues and screamed at the kids. No wonder, I felt so tired. Believe you me, the law of attraction was hitting me right between the eyes, and I still couldn’t figure out why things just went from bad to worse simply because I was too busy bitching and being angry. And worst, alongside all the anger and resentment; my position at work suffered and my finances just went down the drain. My debts were piling, and money that should have come my way, never came. By year’s end, I knew I had to rethink my handle on things or lose control of my life.

The articles on silence and ‘soft speech’ caught my eyes 3 days into the New Year. And at that moment, just the very thought of silence and soft speech brought a sense of calmness over me. And, think, if I were to actually practice silence and soft speech on a day to day basis, will it not be highly possible that I can have inner peace, serenity and attract good fortune? It’s been barely 5 days into this practice of silence, and I try to talk less and low. My heartbeat seems calmer. I was not angry at the waiter for forgetting about the breakfast I ordered this morning. Is it coincidence that I received just today the 5k that someone owed me nearly 2 years ago? Maybe it is, I don’t know yet.

Silence is a Virtue

Silence is a virtue, indeed. One thing is for sure, we can stay out of trouble if we just keep our mouth shut. Use wisely in everyday life, silence is an excellent tool in daily conversations and to make negotiations work our way. But many of us fear silence. We find silence awkward, uncomfortable. And to break the awkward silence, many of us make the mistake of opening our mouths and making even more mistakes. This happens often in business negotiations. Some Asian cultures have used silence as a business tool to their advantage.

As pointed out by Tim Berry in his post using_silence, silence is one of the most powerful tools in conversation, and, perhaps more to business negotiations. “…sometimes a Japanese person will win concessions from an American simply by not fearing silence. For example, the American breaks what seems like an awkward pause by lowering the price, thinking that the silence is disapproval. The Japanese person, however, was simply respecting the importance of the offer.”

In business, in order to make effective presentations, one of the tips given by Guykawasaki is "don't overwhelm the audience. Be entertaining but use moments of silence, soft speech, and slow cadence."

On a personal level, Roy Posner on gurusoftware said “If we speak too much, these energies are squandered, which tends attract corresponding negative results from the field of life. However, if we conserve our energies through reduced speech - or, better yet, by completely remaining silent - the energies are fortified and strengthened, which tends to attract sudden and abundant good fortune from the world around us.”

From my own experience, I believe this last quote to be true. When one bitches, rants, and raves, one drives away all positive energy and attract in its stead bad vibes and unfortunate events. The law of attraction, remember? Therefore, if we conserve our energy by keeping silent, the inner peace and spiritual harmony and goodness we feel will infuse into the space of life around us and attract more good vibes and abundance of good fortune.

In silence, you are more in contact with your own reality by calming the senses and controlling the mind. There is a voice that you can hear in that silence, the voice of your own soul. You will feel the Divine presence when silence reigns.